It can feel daunting and overwhelming; your child’s first appointment with a therapist. Not only might your child be feeling anxious, but you probably are too. As a parent or caregiver, you naturally want to make that first session go as smoothly as possible. A big part of that is helping your child feel prepared and comfortable.

Here are some helpful ways to support your child before their appointment:

1. Talk them through what to expect:
   If your child is old enough, let them know where the appointment will take place. Being able to picture the location can make it feel less unknown.  Show them a picture of their therapist from our website so they can put a friendly face to the name.  Explain that the first appointment is mostly about getting to know each other. They’re welcome to have their parent(s) or caregiver join them for part (or all) of that first session and subsequent sessions if it helps them feel at ease.For younger children, let them know there will be toys, books, craft supplies, and other fun things to explore. Our child therapists take time to learn what each child enjoys and incorporate those interests into their sessions.
2. Emphasize that it’s their appointment:
   Let your child know that therapy is a safe space where they can be honest about their feelings, but they don’t have to share anything until they’re ready. They can ask for you to come into the room or take a break at any time. The process is meant to be supportive, never stressful or overwhelming.
3. Reassure them they’re not being “analyzed”:
   Many pre-teens and teens worry that therapy means being judged or “analyzed.” In reality, therapists are there to listen and support, not to diagnose or label. The goal is simply to build trust and connection so they can provide the best help possible.
4. Review confidentiality together:
   Teens often worry about getting into trouble for what they share. Go over the confidentiality section of their intake paperwork with them, it explains when therapists are legally required to report something, such as safety concerns. The therapist will also review this at the first appointment to ensure your child understands.
5. Normalize the experience:
   I often tell my own children that therapy is just like visiting your family doctor. When we have a physical health concern, we don’t think twice about booking an appointment, and there’s no stigma attached to it. Our mental health deserves that same care and attention. Remind your child that many people see therapists for support, and they’re not alone in doing so. I also share my own experiences with therapy and how helpful it has been for me, it helps children see that reaching out for support is a healthy, normal part of taking care of ourselves.
6. Talk afterward—when they’re ready:
   After the appointment, let your child know you’re interested in how it went, but don’t push for details. You might say something like, “If you feel like sharing how it went, I’m here to listen. I want to support you however I can.”
7. Be kind to yourself, too:
   It’s completely normal to have your own emotions about your child starting therapy. You might feel relief, worry, guilt, or even uncertainty, and that’s okay. Supporting your child through this process can bring up a lot of feelings for parents and caregivers. Remember, you don’t have to have all the answers or carry everything on your own. If you find yourself needing extra support, reach out. Therapy and counselling aren’t just for children. Parents deserve care and space to process, too. Taking care of your own mental health helps you show up as your best self for your child.

We hope you found this blog helpful! If you’d like more information or would like to book a session with one of our therapists, we’d be happy to connect. You can reach us at 519-302-2300 or email reception@brantmentalhealth.com.