Being a new parent can be a wonderful experience, but there are aspects of new parenthood that are not always discussed. Here are some “survival” tips for adjusting to parenthood.

• Build a support team around you:
  Not everyone can play “the goalie” on a hockey team, so when it comes to support, we need to consider the people in our lives and what position on the team they can fulfill. Positions to consider include social, emotional, informational, and practical.

• Accept help:
  Let others assist with meals, cleaning, or errands—this isn’t a sign of weakness but a way to conserve energy and stay healthy.

• Set boundaries with family and friends:
  It’s okay to say no to visits or advice that feels overwhelming or intrusive. Protect your space and time. 

• Focus on self-care that is realistic:
  Small actions like taking a shower, eating a nutritious snack, or resting when baby naps can make a big difference. 

• Don’t compare yourself to other parents:
  Every parent’s journey is unique. What works for others may not work for you—and that’s okay. 

• Don’t compare your baby to other babies:
  Developmental timelines vary. Focus on your baby’s individual progress and needs. 

• Limit social media:
  Seeing curated “perfect” parenthood online can lead to unnecessary pressure or self-doubt. 

• It’s ok to not be perfect:
  It’s normal to be “figuring” things out as you go. Mistakes are part of learning and growing as a parent. 

• Watch your internal dialogue:
  Positive affirmations can be used to remind yourself that you can do this and that you are doing a good job. 

• Share your pregnancy and birth experience with your partner:
  This helps with mood and communication, which reduces stress and builds emotional connection. 

• As baby gets older, consider joining baby groups:
  This provides social interaction, emotional support, and shared experiences with others in similar situations. 

• Seek out support from your family doctor, OB, or therapist if you are struggling:
  Professional support can help address postpartum depression, anxiety, or other mental health concerns early on.

Supporting New Parents

Do you know someone who is a new parent? Telling a new set of parents to reach out if they need help may not be enough support, as many parents won’t ask for help when needed (they may not want to “burden” their family and friends). Here are some suggestions to effectively support a new set of parents.

• Reassure them that they are doing a good job:
  New parents often doubt themselves, so kind words can go a long way in boosting confidence. 

• Check in regularly:
  A simple message or call can remind them that they’re not alone and that someone cares. 

• Offer to help but be specific about what help you are offering:
  For example, “I’m going to bring you dinner tomorrow night,” or “Can I watch the baby while you nap?” 

• Respect their boundaries:
  Understand that their time, energy, and space may be limited—and be mindful not to take offense. 

• Listen to what the new mom and dad are saying about their emotions and thoughts:
  To recognize potential challenges with mental health and offer appropriate support or encouragement to seek help. 

• Be supportive rather than judging:
  Avoid giving unsolicited advice or criticism. Just being there, empathetically, can mean everything. 

Final Thoughts:

New parenthood is both joyful and challenging. Being kind, patient, and supportive—whether you’re the new parent or someone supporting them—makes all the difference. If you, or someone you know is looking for support, reach out to us at 519.302.2300 or email reception@brantmentalhealth.com. Our dedicated admin team will take the time to listen to you and make the appropriate recommendations.