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My Child Is In Therapy and It Feels Like My Fault

I debated writing this article for a while, the title alone probably tells you why. We feel so much guilt as parents, whether we should or not is another topic, but the fact of the matter is some of us go over every decision we have made in our child’s life and agonize over what we could have done better. Earlier this month I found myself sitting in the waiting room of a mental health clinic, and not as the owner this time, but as the mother of a child who desperately needed help. A big part of my job is to educate people about mental health and to advocate for those with mental health disorders, and their families. I tell people that they shouldn’t feel bad for what is going on, and that it isn’t any one’s fault. But there I was, my heart racing, palms sweating and feeling like I had let my child down again. Should I have noticed sooner that things weren’t right? Did I ignore big red flags because of meetings and laundry and my other kids and packing lunches? Am I that wrapped up in everything that needs to be done that I’m not seeing what is going on right in front of me? That negative little voice inside was working double time during that counselling session, telling me everything I didn’t do right, going back years and picking over every mistake. Why do we do that to ourselves? When asking myself if I am the best mother, the obvious and truthful answer is no. None of us are. But I know these things for a fact: 1. I love my kids more than I could ever really put into words, 2. I work hard to provide them with what they need, 3. I am proactive about their health and try to make sure they are getting everything they need, 4. I listen when they tell me they have a problem. 5. I enjoy my time with them and am always looking to have quality time with each of them. If there are other parents out there reading this, and they are noticing things about their child’s mood or behaviour, the prevailing feeling is probably fear (it was for me.) No one wants to acknowledge or accept that something might be wrong with their child. The second feeling is that worry that you did something wrong. My daughter didn’t have the ideal childhood. I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and her father and I had only met a few short months earlier. I’m not ashamed to share this anymore because it is a part of my story, and I have never for one moment regretted the birth of my first child. Needless to say, the relationship was not healthy, loving or stable and I spent 4 years trapped in a cycle of power and control, which unfortunately, my daughter witnessed. Becoming a single mother, obviously had its [...]

By |2019-10-22T20:34:00+00:00October 22nd, 2019|General|Comments Off on My Child Is In Therapy and It Feels Like My Fault


How do I make an appointment? You can email us or call us at 519-302-2300 to speak to a receptionist. The receptionist will ask you general information questions regarding the support you are looking for. This will help them pair you with a counsellor/therapist who is trained to work with the issues you would like support with. They will then book you with an appointment that works for you. You can also request a free 15 minute face-to-face consult with your counsellor/therapist first. What can I expect during my first visit? Reaching out for help is not always easy and we want to make the process as simple as possible. When you arrive, our receptionist will greet you and have you fill out a form with basic information and sign a confidentiality agreement. You will then pay. Your therapist will bring you into their office and you will get to know each other. The therapist will go over the confidentiality and privacy agreement. You can ask your therapist any questions you have. You will create a goal(s) to work on. At the end, your therapist will bring you to reception to book another appointment. How much will it cost? Our fees range from $100-140, per session depending on which service you need. Each client is given a customized treatment plan so the total cost depends on each individuals needs. If you have extended health care benefits, reach out to your provider to find out how much they cover and what type of professionals they cover. Unfortunately, our services are not covered by OHIP. Can anyone call and ask if I am attending therapy? No, unless you have provided written permission, we cannot confirm or deny that you are a client at Brant Mental Health Solutions. Your privacy is importance to us. What happens if my therapist is not a good fit? Although we try to fit you with a therapist who is best suited to work with the issues you are seeking therapy for, sometimes there are reasons you and your therapist do not connect. If this happens, you can call us and we will see which therapist may be a better fit. What forms of payments do you take? Fees are paid before each session at the reception desk. We accept cash, debit, Mastercard and Visa. WHAT IF I HAVE TO CANCEL AN APPOINTMENT? If you need to cancel an appointment, please call 519-302-2300 to speak with a receptionist. The receptionist can also reschedule a new appointment for you at that time. To avoid paying a session fee for a cancelled appointment, please provide 24 hours prior notice.

By |2019-09-26T18:58:41+00:00September 26th, 2019|General|Comments Off on FAQ

Walk-in Counselling Starting September 27th

Single Session Walk-In Counselling Clinic On Friday, September 27 th from 3-6 p.m, counsellor and coach Jordon Iorio, will be offering a single session walk-in counselling clinic at Brant Mental Health Solutions (139 Grand River Street North, Paris). The purpose of this single session clinic is to provide: * Solution-focussed counselling * Coping strategies * Information on how to navigate the mental health system * Problem solving skills * Safety planning * Healthy lifestyle advice * Conflict management techniques * Stress reduction suggestions * Self care techniques This clinic is available to anyone 14 years of age or older. People will be seen in the order they arrive, and will be assessed individually by our counsellor. After the single session, recommendations will be made, and our counsellor may refer you to other services and organizations within our community in order for you to receive the most appropriate care for your situation. Registration begins at 2.30 p.m. on September 27 th , sessions will be 30 minutes long and will cost $40. Make sure to arrive as early as possible to fill out your intake form and get a session while they last! More about Jordon: Jordon has a background as a clinician (counsellor/clinical therapist), and has also worked in vocational rehabilitation and career coaching/consulting. He holds a Master of Arts in Counselling from Yorkville University and a Bachelor of Arts (Hons. Double Major – Social Sciences) from Wilfrid Laurier University. Jordon aims to soon register with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO) and specialize in helping clients’ experiencing anxiety and depression.

By |2019-09-04T20:16:23+00:00September 4th, 2019|General|Comments Off on Walk-in Counselling Starting September 27th

Thanks for coming to our Grand Opening.

  On Saturday January 26th, Brant Mental Health Solutions, officially opened in Paris. Located at 139 Grand River Street North, this new mental health clinic offers, counselling, play therapy, sand therapy, art therapy, speech therapy and psychology services. Dr. Spenser and Amy Dougley are the founders of Brant Mental Health Solutions and Brant Wellness and Rehab and felt that mental health services were much needed in Brant County. After one of their children was diagnosed with a mental health disorder, they realized there was nowhere equipped to deal with childhood mental health in the area, and that the wait lists for help were far too long. They also felt that there wasn’t adequate support for the families and loved ones who are caring for those struggling with mental health disorders. Brant Mental Health Solutions is set up to care for people of all ages and will be a resource to the community through workshops and seminars. The Grand Opening Celebration was attended by many people from the Brantford and Brant County Communities and the official ribbon cutting ceremony took place with both the Mayor of Brant County (David Bailey) and the Mayor of Brantford (Kevin Davis), as well as MPP Will Bouma and Ward Counsellor Marc Laferriere. Dr. Spenser and Amy Dougley feel thankful to be a part of the Brant County Community and are hoping to prevent other families from facing the challenges of mental health alone. www.brantmentalhealth.com 519.302.2300 Facebook @Brant Mental Health Solutions amy@brantmentalhealth.com Left to right: Dr. Spenser Dougley, Ward Counsellor Marc Laferriere (with Finn), Amy Dougley, MPP Will Bouma, Mayor David Bailey, Mayor Kevin Davis, Margaret McRobert. The team of mental health care practitioners at Brant Mental Health Solutions. Family activities at the Grand Opening Celebration!

By |2019-01-29T14:20:58+00:00January 28th, 2019|General|Comments Off on Thanks for coming to our Grand Opening.


Chronic pain is a challenge that more and more people are facing every day.  From headaches and migraines to back and joint pain, experiences of chronic pain can seriously disrupt your quality of life. Adding psychotherapy treatment to the more traditional approaches to pain may provide you with a powerful tool for addressing chronic pain. How does that work? The more technology advances, the more we are able to study the brain, and we are starting to understand how the brain functions in relation to pain.  The latest research shows that pain originates in the brain.  But, it’s not a mater of pain being “all in your head”.  All pain is real, and each experience of pain is personal and unique.  The brain is simply responding to danger signals that it is picking up from all around you. Providing Protection The mind has an incredible capacity to protect us from what it considers to be dangerous situations or emotional reactions that may generate a fear response.  In certain situations, the brain may generate pain as a distraction to keep us safe from experiences that the mind determines to be too painful to bear.  Consider a child who has a fallen in the playground.  There is moment where the child is not sure whether to cry or not, and their reaction is dependant upon on the reaction of caregivers around them.  If there appears to be no danger, then there is no need for a pain response. What can I do to help my mind release pain? Strong emotions such as anger, grief and guilt may be one of the causes of ongoing, chronic pain.  Learning to identify and experience strong emotions without suppressing them, may result in a reduction of pain.  A simple practice is to try paying extra attention to what is happening in your life.  Consider what your worries and stressors are, and reflect on how you feel about them.  If the feelings are overwhelming or you feel stuck, then seek the help of a qualified psychotherapist who can assist you in this process.

By |2018-12-11T22:21:03+00:00December 4th, 2018|General|Comments Off on THE MIND AND CHRONIC PAIN LINK


Our office is currently under construction and set to open January 7, 2019. We will be offering Counselling, Speech Therapy and Psychology services. Keep checking our website and Facebook page for more details as we approach our opening date!

By |2018-11-08T22:25:06+00:00November 8th, 2018|General|Comments Off on OPENING JANUARY 7, 2019