Not everyone is looking forward to Valentine’s Day, especially if this will be their first Valentine’s Day after the loss of their spouse, or separation.

Registered Social Worker, Kunle, shares some tips for those dealing with a different Valentine’s Day this year.

1. 1. Feel It, Don’t Fight It:
      Acknowledge your emotions without judgment, whether it’s sadness, grief, anger, or even relief. All feelings are valid.
   2. Focus on What you Have Control Over:
      Plan meaningful activities. You can watch your favorite movies, cook a special meal, or enjoy a nature walk.
   3. Surround Yourself with Love:
      Spend time with friends or family who uplift you. Consider a group dinner or a heartwarming phone call with someone you care about.
   4. Prioritize Self-Care:
      Treat yourself with kindness. Go biking, book a spa session, try a new hobby, or simply rest without guilt.
   5. Reflect & Release:
      Talk to a therapist, write in a journal or pen a letter (even one you won’t send) to process your emotions and release lingering thoughts.
   6. Spread Love:
      Shift the focus outward by volunteering, donating, or surprising someone with an act of kindness.
   7. Opt-Out Without Guilt: Valentine’s Day is just another date on the calendar. Skip the flowers and candy if that feels better—your peace matters most.
   8. Don’t Compare:
      Social media is not real, don’t compare yourself unfairly with other people celebrating romantic relationships lavishly on social media. You matter, and your life is meaningful with or without that. Identify things in your life that you are grateful for.

We hope you found this helpful, if you would like to connect with one of the therapists on our team, reach out to us at 519.302.2300 or email reception@brantmentalhealth.com